By Claire McEnery 
 
We are back to the daily school runs. As parents we are keen to know how our child’s day went. 
 
We can spurt out questions: 
 
How was your day? 
 
What did you do today? 
 
Who did you play with? 
 
Very often, we get a few words answer, they can’t remember, they don’t know, or they didn’t do anything. 
 
Mummies, this is okay! Your child is taking in so much information during the school day, they need time to process it all. Don’t be disheartened if the child in front of you walking home is telling their parent everything while yours is quiet, every child is different. It doesn’t mean they didn’t have a great time; it doesn’t mean they’re unhappy at school, it’s just their way. 
 
The questions we ask can sometimes overwhelm our children as they did so much today. It isn’t that they don’t want you to know, it’s just a lot to communicate. 
 
It may be that they answer the question in a way we weren’t expecting. They may point out the part of the day that was hardest for them or point out that a certain child didn’t play with them. This can encourage negative conversation when there will most certainly have been positives. 
Last year, I changed my technique. On our walk home I ask one question: 
 
“What went well today?” 
 
This has transformed our conversation. It encourages your child to look for the positives, it also only asks for one aspect of the day. This is much easier to process and will most likely lead to further conversation. Of course, they may still point out something negative that needs addressing but I have found this question to be a lot more successful in creating positive conversation, and in turn, positive thinking as your child develops. 
 
So today, on your way home from school, at the dinner table or before bedtime, try asking this one question. 
 
“What went well today?” 
 
I would love to know what they said. 
Do you need more help with this? Book a call with me. 
 
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